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The thing is when he started this new band, I was completely supportive.


hindsight: you shouldnt have been. not because of fear of cheating, but because, just like the marketing guy said: bands, and families, dont mix.


Hi DR,
Well, I think I have to disagree with you on this one...for once ;\) I think it can work, but just like with everything, both partners have to agree on the goal and how to get there. There are a lot of careers out there that require one parent to be away quite a bit and I don't see if any different than a musician...there are always ways ;\) Besides, I enjoyed it. What I should have done was still had my own life instead of clinging to his.

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1. this singer is just using him until they make it big, then she'll "go solo" (what does he DO anyway?)
[or until she scores a rich groupie suger daddy

I think H is actually using her. She has a good voice and I think he think she is going places...

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2. i was thinking that your daugher might be what finally wakes him up, ro gets him to GROW up. But .. umm.. you didnt get married until she was 5? thats... "unusual".

Backwards, I know. She was our little surprise (accident if you will, although she is NO accident to me).

I agree that he has a bad case of Peter-pan-ism!

I don't know that our D10 could bring him out of this. H feels like he is a great father to D10 now...I think because his father left him when he was 5 and was hardly ever available even though he always lived down the street. H lives about hour 1/2 away and he still makes it out to see her twice a week...a 150% better than his father.

I believe he will have to experience some level of success and the hardships that can go with success before he realizes what he has done...ya know, "be careful what you wish for".