Root--it's so great to hear from you again! Wish I'd had the presence of mind to reply to OW's text. I am so slow on the clever stuff. :P I can do what you suggested: Give love freely, be positive, a good listener, and create a great family. I think I'm on this path now, but there's always room for improvement.
I think your point about trusting in myself is key. I have no guarantees that it will never happen again, especially if it's true that the best predictor of future actions is past behavior. Just keep my eyes open along with the lines of communication.
Cades--thanks for dropping by my thread.
The cell phone thing is a toughie--long story short, I've never had access to it. He seems to be a little more open about the phone and his email lately though...he's not giving me total access, but he's given me glimpses that would never have happened before, so I'll just keep my eye on the sitch. I think the less uptight I am about it the more likely he will be to open up more.
The traveling is a concern for me because he has to travel to OW's city. Last time he went I know there was contact--that's the point I finally went into LRT. Honestly at this time, I don't think anything is going on there, but H has been VERY good at hiding his philandering before, so I can't say there's no way anything could happen, you know? Back to predictors of future actions...
Right now, I'm still seeing progress every day. We had a nice time together over the weekend. I can see how our communication can still improve, but we're talking and laughing and enjoying our home and kids together, so there's definitely something to build on.
