CVA, I know the feeling all to well, my W, resents so much that has happened in the past, that is our major problem, she is constantly judging me by it. She doesn't believe in change, but I am showing her that she is wrong, I have and am changing, more and more, everyday, it is because I want to, not because she wants me to.
She, just like yours, needs to truly let go of your/my past, it is just that, our past, it isn't going to solve anything for them, here in the now, and it sure ain't going to make their future brighter, We are the only ones who should remember our own past, we should use it, learn from it, and do what we have to, to make sure it never repeats itself, That is all the past is good for.
If our Wives are holding grudges against us for it, then they are stuck in the past with it, things will never change for them, unless they open up their eyes, and see us change. Seeing is believing, you know, and unfortunately, for some people, you have to hit them repeatedly over the head with a sledgehammer to get them to see. Well, our changes are the sledge, hit them hard enough, long enough and they will open their eyes.
Got to say, I haven't seen that movie, yet, I'm not a big Jim Carey fan, (I do really like "Me, Myself and Irene" and "The Cable Guy") From the previews of it, I think its a more serious movie, I might have to check it out, would like to see how he plays a serious part. Keep up the good work, and take care.
