Then she says in her searching for my feelings on our sitch right now tone, "How are you doing?" She sounded pretty down, but I came right back with a bubbly "I'm doing great." Then without my how are you feeling tone, said "How are you?" She said "Ok."
Then I just said "Well good, you have a good day and I'll see you Wednesday morning."
I think you handled this very well. It probably did take her off guard a bit. Best to leave the interaction on your terms and timetable. You also were able to get a bit of the GALing out in the conversation so that she can notice. Way to stay strong on the S tonight. It seems weird but it is just like a game. You have to make sure your "plays" are going to bring about the desired effect.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07