I see your point that actively fishing for compliments and NEEDING a positive response that matches or exceeds your own internal response can be destructive to a relationship. In an LTR, a different sort of problem can arise. Even though one person may be good at self-validating, if the other person never acknowledges/praises/validates, then the hole can be damaging to the R. I can see how one could be crushed by their SO not acknowledging some big accomplishment, but you can get over it. But if there is a pattern of never validating, it can lead to resentment, distance, and most troublesome of all, validation from OP.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
