Cemar, I believe women may have to be more creative to keep their desire on track because of the testosterone disadvantage. I have a list of things that have worked for me in the past, so I know what to do when I am feeling LD...I have cleared the path. I have confidence I can turn things around and get there. People who are in a low desire state have decided to keep the road blocks up, for whatever reason ( and often the reasons are obscure and multifaceted). I have never taken testosterone, but I can assure you that when I am feeling HD it's as strong as you do. I am getting to a place where I like the idea that I can modulate my desire; I know with work I can get to a HD place, and I also know that sometimes it's inappropriate to be HD. Which brings me to the next question: Why do you say that you should desire your spouse even when he/she doesn't merit it?
