My marriage is hopeless VI

[Hope_11]

Scott,

I am also thinking of sending an email to my W, stating a lot of my feelings that I have been holding in. I know that it will not bring her back to our M, but, at least it will not start an argument where she and I get defensive.

I think that you should be cautious about doing this. You have to remember that your W cannot think rationally and be reasonable. I don't want you to rock the boat only for you to get hurt more in the end. One more thing to consider is that you mentioned your W was forwarding all your emails to her attorney. H and I emailed back and forth for awhile and it helped me say a lot of things that I needed to say to him. I also wrote him some letters. I needed to say some things to him and I would never have been given the chance in person. Do what you need to do for yourself, but be ready to deal with the repercussions.

I guess it is normal for me to feel lonely not having someone to talk to that knows everything about me. I miss holding my W's hand, talking with her about what is going on in our lives, holding her, watching TV with her, doing projects around the house with her. I guess I miss all the little things that come with a loving R. I miss having a true companion in my life.

I am really starting to feel lonely too. I am actually starting to look forward to meeting someone new. Now when I look back, I don't think that H and I ever had that great of a relationship. He never was a great guy. I want to meet the great guy. The one who cares about me and only me. You and I are both going to move on to better things. We have to...a lot of people are looking for someone like us. Hell, if OM and OW want to be with our cheating spouses, the line should be a mile long for us. I just read a book this last weekend that was called "He's just not that into you". It hit home. The book described a bunch of unhealthy relationships. The jist of the book was that if you are in the right relationship...you shouldn't have to walk on eggshells, he/she will like your family and friends, you will want to talk to each other a couple of times a day, he/she will not commit the ultimate betrayal by cheating on you and disrespecting you and it goes on and on. It opened up my eyes. Yes, I would have stayed in my marriage because I stood behind my vows, but my H is pushing me out, so I will start over...I will find the man who will cherishes me and loves me for me. Scott, you will do the same...the future is brighter.