Truly Piecing once and for all!

[Heartbroken]

Hello,

Thought I'd update - hard to share my positives when I see so many LBS going through some awful sh*t right now.

H and I are doing fine....good actually...

I am still being guarded - but have fewer and fewer sad episodes. We just passed the one yr anniv. where he gave me the note that ILYBNILWY and that we should D...WOW a whole year has gone by...

We are in the process of buying a boat - cruiser cabin sleep 4 - so we are planning some fun family times for next year.

We celebrated our son's 10th bday yesterday and H actually helped me shop and picked out the major gift (book shelf stereo). This is a 180 for him!

The good things about us is we are communicating much better - I always thought we did talk but now we are more than superficial. I am no longer on eggshells - telling him what I need out of this R, as he tells me his needs...

All our friends have been VERY supportive of me and of H and are happy we are reconciling. It's funny how our lives turn on a dime and to hear how my H felt during the EA/PA times and how/why our WAS do what they do. It is also very scary how easy our M could have just ended - especially if I had not DB'ed my butt off. H now thanks me for not letting go or for giving up - for being a force he had to deal with.

There is a quote I have taped to my monitor:

There is more in us than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives we will be unwilling to settle for less. ---by Kurt Hahn

I like to think I will not ever settle again - I feel this crisis we went through had to happen in order to be with H for the rest of my life. We are a new couple - a new family and we continue to grow each day.

I pray for all my DB friends here...

Have a wonderful week!

HB