You are right. I have issues and need to deal with them or I will never be in a place that is healthy for me, our M if it survives, my kids or any future R.
Time to get to work. Thought I was getting there, but yesterday was a wake up call to me as I ranted about everything under the sun. My mistake has been, "oh, if I just get this out here or in counseling, I am dealing with it" when really all I am doing is bitching and complaining about old issues that still bother me. Unresolved issues will kill my R with everyone.
Hi CVA- I'm in the same place as you, starting to realize that just "getting it out" is not the solution. I need to work on how to deal with my issues in a way that actually lets me put things behind me so I can move on with my life. We can do it!
