I know what you mean by feeling the loss of the emotional connection. However, I find that it's by starting to focus on doing whatever makes ME happy -- going to dance classes right now, taking my girls to see Harry Potter tomorrow/dinner after (with or without W, don't know which now), reading, thinking about me and my goals -- are slowly getting me to a place where I'm truly OK. I miss my W and the intimacy that we had, but realize that unless she opens that door herself, it's gone, possibly forever. And really, you know what, that's truly her loss too.
This is really poignant. I think I will print it out and try and read it daily. I have been having the hardest time focusing on myself, instead of my W, the last few months. I guess I have not got to the point where I am okay if things don't work out. This is going to take some time for me. I still don't see a future without my W being a part of it. I have been GAL, but have not really begun to detach. You are right, if she does come back, it will be her decision, and nothing that I am doing is going to sway her that way. She has to want to on her own.
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Keep making efforts with your W, but stop focusing on her so much.
Understood. Thanks for your advice/insight.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07
