But what I also sense is a will to dominate through your words. I have the impression that, even on a conscious level, your eloquence is a kind of attack on her supposedly feebler intellect. You can't cross-question her as though in a courtroom and expect her to share the tender secrets of her soul.
I think that some of what you say about your wife's mode of expressing herself--or not expressing herself, as the case may be--is just due to frustration with her; but I also think that you do consider yourself to be her superior, and she knows it. But she is far from acknowledging your claim.
She is now the holder of power in the marriage, and she has no need to exert herself beyond speaking a few words--"Don't like you"--or whatever else does the trick. She seems sad, and she also seems reachable still, though not by words. It would not be surprising if she likes being powerful.
Delia, that was an especially powerful post, and much of it has application to my sitch (and I suspect others). I especially found lots of nuggest in the sentences above. Thanks for putting that together and sharing it.
Good morning Heimlich - hope you are doing well.
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