There is a question attached here... How would you (anyone?) react after an argument if your S jumped you and the argument had not been resolved? Would you then assume everything was A-OK? Maybe I should have and put my stubborness aside, I'm really regretting it this AM.
LikeItHot, IMO, there is no one answer for this. There have been times where I've followed the " just do it" path and it's worked out great, where things were smoothed over quite nicely, and other times when the " just do it" backfired on me...psychologically, I wasn't ready to be that close with H at that moment. Again, its a case of keeping self aware and knowing your limits; saying " no" is fine as long as it's not done as a way of retaliating. Sometimes I know I just need time to work through what I'm feeling before I can go for the sex.
Cemar, Thanks for sharing that DHEA info. I get your point that biologically it all goes back to testosterone. And maybe that's how the other forms I've mentioned work: perhaps the right music, scent, book, etc causes an hormonal surge of test. that leads to desire. My point was that there are indirect ways of getting aroused. But it's the willingness to try that is most important, and it sounds like you and W are too locked in fusion to work together. I am sorry the candles have no effect, but it can't hurt, right?
