For me to 'fish for a compliment' from him would be my own attempt to 'fuse' with him. Anything he might deliver after my 'fishing' will not feel genuine, to both he and I, because I am prompting him to give it. He now cannot give freely, and with feeling, for in my 'fishing,' I have robbed him of the opportunity. Replace "compliment" with "desire" or "sex" and you have what HD people have to deal with. As soon as us HD's ASK for desire, we have in effect made it impossible for the LD person to be successful.
