Unfortunately for me, I think I have a great example for you Cemar. I will try to make this short. Typically, H and I have a lot of sex on weekends. two Sundays ago I think we set a new personal record thus Mon. H was a little drained, maybe even a little sore, sorry if that is TMI, so I was turned down on Mon., not a big deal I don't take it too personal just sends my drive on the downward spiral. Anyway yesterday we had company and then a disagreement/fight. It was not anything we are going to end our marriage over but I am pretty serious about my stance (boundary?) I went to bed and I had not received an apology and I still am waiting. When H came to bed I really wanted to jump him but this would not be because I desired him at the moment it would only have been a physical F*ck and I was too stubborn cuz I felt he would also think everything was OK and we wouldn't continue the "discussion". There is a question attached here... How would you (anyone?) react after an argument if your S jumped you and the argument had not been resolved? Would you then assume everything was A-OK? Maybe I should have and put my stubborness aside, I'm really regretting it this AM.
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)
