see, the difference as far as I can tell, mk, is that we are the ones that are learning about ourselves and attempting to save/repair our marriages. that, to me, means less likely to repeat any of the same mistakes twice. whereas many of our spouses, certainly mine, can't see the forest for the trees...he externalizes everything, as far as I can see is doing no work inward. because of that, from what everyone is telling me, he is most likely to end up in another doomed marriage. who knows, time will tell. but I'm hoping if we do D and I do find someone else and marry again, I will have a better chance.
no, it won't be the same. I'm personally DONE having kids, so it won't have that element. I'm different at 40 than I was at 20. there will be differences. but I hope that there will also be something very special there. I hope I can believe in that forever-marriage again, and really learn to trust again. because, I'm sorry, I deserve to get what I want, too, and his actions obviously affect me, but they shouldn't dictate my future.
789, sorry, don't mean to hijack your thread here. I'm happy to hear you didn't call...its not easy, I know. stay strong!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
