My dear friends, who are hurting, specially the newbies who are still in shock and wonder "why???" I have to share something I found in my bible study about marriages last night, hope this helps you:
"Pure and holy affection is not a feeling, but a principle, those who area actuated by true love are neither unreasonalbe nor blind...But the passion of the natural heart is another thing altogether...passion will be headstrong, rash, defiant of all restraint. "That love which has no better foundation than mere sensual gratification will be headstrong, blind, and uncontrollable. Honor, truth, and every noble, elevated power of the mind are brought under the slavery of passions. The person who is bound in the chains of this infatuation is too often deaf to the voice of reason and conscience; neither argument nor entreaty can lead him to see the folly of his course. "True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. On the contrary, it is calm and deep in its nature. It looks beyond mere externals, and is attracted by qualities alone. "
On Samson and Delilah: "the narrative creates an impression of almost incredible stupidity on the part of Samson. At any time he could have put an end to Delilah's questioning by leaving her and returning to his home. But Samson's chief fault was no so much stupidity as sensual infatuation. In the ruin and shame that this sensual weakness brought upon him, and the way in which, step by step, it lead him to forfeit God's miraculous gift of supernatural strenth, lies the chief moral of the story" "...At the very outset of life he was surrounded with favorable conditions for physical strenght, intellentual vigor and moral purity, but under the influence of wicked associates he let go that hold upon God which is man's only safequard, and he was swept away by the tide of evil. Those who in the way of duty are brought into trial may be sure that God will preserve them; but if men willfully place themselves under the power of temptation, they will fall, sooner or later"
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Oh, thank you. You gave this to me just at the moment I was about to give in. My life has been such a roller coaster. I am not religious and I lost my Bible, but I love the Word. I do not know how many times I can withstand hearing the negativity from my H's stance. Thank you for something life affirming. Perhaps my true love is my love for myself. Thanks again.
Last edited by mkultra; 08/13/0706:13 AM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
oh honey, i'm so sorry your Hs infatuation is keeping him blind, but you know what? you are still master of your destiny. He is like a sick sick man, remember that, right now he is not the person you married, he is blind to his faults and it has nothing to do with who you are as person. I know separation and As take a huge toll of our self steem, but wake up in the morning LOVING who you are, know that you are a beautiful person and the sun for your two children. Prayer keeps me in one piece, when you are blind by hurt and don't see a way out, kneel down and put all that sorrow into your prayer, tell the Lord this burden is too big for you to carry. I'm still amazed how quickly the Lord has healed me, is the ugliness still there and I have a long way to go? yes, but I have peace in my heart, the kind only God can give.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I have to agree w/ cat03! Everyday I thank God for I would not be able to get out of bed every morning without HIS strength. HE is truly the only one who can give you the peace & strength you need!! Even if you dont normally pray, try just "tallking to God a little everyday. You will notice the difference the more you talk to HIM.
