allright, there is no contact. not today outside of pick up and non tomorrow on my part.
she picked s up this morning, w came in and saw the new bedroom set i bought him. funny how i take my extra cash and put it towards s and she puts her towards a new car. well w was really excited about it and i thought i was going to get a hug for a sec, but then she turned. haha.
mil stayed in the running car the whole time, now she is totally against me, as per w's words. well i went out and greeted her and asked how she was doing. put s in the car seat and told them all to have fun day. mil seemed sort of puzzled by my actions of being upfront and kind.
ok, so i agreed to a beer with fil this coming thurs or fri. which is really the meeting since i won't sit down with w, fil, my father and me. we are grown up snad i'm not bringing others into this that don't need to be. but here is the deal, i'm thinking of meeting with w and fil, myself.
my problem is can i say this is a settlement negotitation and therefore not admissable into court??? i have a few attorney friends and now enough, but i don't think this will fly. but fil said he was lost on how to file this and could use my help. so if it is going to happen i think i can make things as amicable as possible if i take the reins and handle it.
my plan is to set the rules up front, we agree on things great, things we don't we take to a mediator, no attorney's. were pretty much divided on all assets already, so it shouldn't be a problem. also i think this could be a good db'ing move, i keep my cool and show that i'm ready and she will see that hmmm h is ready to move on without me.
either way the "meeting" will happen, even though it is sort of substitute, but i did agree to meet with fil for a beer, so figure that is the meeting. might as well make it as easy for her as i can and if she wants it get it done. this way i can be the filer and not feel like i filed also.
i figure we both still have to jump through the whole thing and it will take at least 60-90 days, that is plenty of time to db.
