Heimlich, thank you for your words of encouragement. It's nice to hear someone besides me tell me that I will be okay.
Will, I've been thinking a lot about what (if anything) to ask DH for right now. I just had a jarring talk with a friend who suggested I ask him to agree to hold off seeing anyone for one year to "give me a chance for this to sink in." I think if I asked him for a year to see if his feelings change---which is what I really mean---he wouldn't agree to that, and, in fact, I know that he doesn't want to miss an opportunity to "connect" with someone if he finds that person. I haven't asked for anything yet, I've been leaving it all up to him, but this talk freaked me out a little.
We're in a friendly spot right now: DH is feeling relieved since he's come clean and I've got ahold of myself. I'm not ready to ask for anything, haven't thought about it enough. What have others done?
The other thing my friend mentioned was making sure that the kids and I are provided for financially. I don't think DH has thought that far ahead (I know I haven't!), says he'd be sure we were fine, but I don't think he's considered the possibility that he may be responsible for two households (his and ours), and if he meets someone else and wants to begin a family, his promise to take care of us might not seem so attractive (especially to another partner).
God knows I don't have much trust in what he says right now, and the idea that we could end up in some kind of financial battle sickens me. What have others (especially non-bread winners) done about this?
