Woke up this morning and lay in bed for a while with W. I know some other DBrs recommended that I not mention the ring, but this has really been eating away at me. I asked her where the rings had gone to. She said they were in her purse and asked if I wanted mine back. Said yes... I had been feeling naked without it. Then I tried to explain why I had taken it off in the first place. Told her that it wasn't to mean or out of spite, but that I wanted her to know that I was confortable with the idea of being apart. That I would do anything to make things work, but I could accept that things would go on afterwards. We talked a little about the past week. She had seen a couple of girlfriends during the week and I asked if she had talked to them about this and what they had said. Both of them were surprised at the situation, but told her that she needs to do what's right for her.
She mentioned that the other day when she had gone to New Hope, she had stopped at a lawyer beforehand. Guess it was a free consultation. She said he was very matter of fact. That we would need to get him all of our financial situation and spoke of child support and alimony. Ouch.
I spoke about the DBing site and book along with other things that I had read. How our situation was so similar to things that I had read about and that things can work out. I asked if she had been reading anything about relationships recently. She hadn't but pointed out that you can pick up a book on any aspect of the whole relationship issue and find something that supports your beliefs. If you are dead set on divorce, there is a book out there that will make it all seem like the right thing to do. I can understand that and had been thinking something very similar.
That was about as far as the conversation went before the kids were up and trying to get us out of bed. W and D went to bridal shower in the afternoon. I took S and went out looking or bday cards for W. Later went to the ILs for lunch and dinner. W and D came later. Still distant as ever. After dinner she disappeared out to the deck to be by herself. I could see that something was eating away at her. The kids stayed at the IL when we left cause they are going out with grandparents tomorrow. I stopped for gas on the way home. When I got home, wife was not there yet. When I walked in, the phone rang. It was her saying that she had stopped to get soda. Took the dog for a walk... about 15 minutes. Wife still not home. Called her. Said she was just driving around thinking. Hating this!!! She's home now, so I need to go.
