I have to agree -- when H gets back, no keeping the cell phone secret! That's how he communicated w/ OW the whole time and I was clueless.
I also agree that being "friends" with other women is dangerous. I know some people totally disagree w/ that, but I just recently had the first hand experience of one of my H's friends trying to be my friend and then it went out of control from his end.
I think the only reason someone is not completely open w/ their cell phones, etc. is that they probably have something to hide. Unfortuntely, I didn't even notice that all of a sudden it meant a lot more to H and that he took it everywhere w/ him.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10