I have to agree -- when H gets back, no keeping the cell phone secret! That's how he communicated w/ OW the whole time and I was clueless.

I also agree that being "friends" with other women is dangerous. I know some people totally disagree w/ that, but I just recently had the first hand experience of one of my H's friends trying to be my friend and then it went out of control from his end.

I think the only reason someone is not completely open w/ their cell phones, etc. is that they probably have something to hide. Unfortuntely, I didn't even notice that all of a sudden it meant a lot more to H and that he took it everywhere w/ him.


Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10