lol, you crack me up about the grannie panties. now that, I would suggest maybe changing, although there are definitely other alternatives than silk thongs. but I understand your mindset. I will admit to practically living in my husbands old t-shirts for a while, only around the house, though. I got a little sloppy. in fact, one of the things on his list (mc had us do a list back in march...each of us wrote what the other needed in order to give the marriage a sincere effort) was for me to go shopping. trust me, I went. I definitely take more pride/effort in my appearance. I mean, when I went out, I wasn't a slob or anything, but at the same time, had probably spent more on the kids clothes than on mine lately. lets just say, that has changed. and I feel better for it.
the bit about your h being terrified about you taking the house/money/kids/etc was just like my h. it was bizarre to me...he was the one who had/is having the affair, but then he kept railing at me not to do x or y or z. they never even occured to me! maybe I'm just too naive, I don't know. after a few weeks of him freaking out that I was going to tell his boss/keep the kids from him/take the money/call or stalk OW, etc, etc, I finally lost it on him. literally, I became a raving lunatic. I did NOTHING to deserve his treatment of me, and I swear his mind went to all this stuff because that's how he thinks....he's a snake, I'm not. simple as that. he just doesn't get it at all. at least your H sounds like he understands that he did something he didn't expect to do.
blech.
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