CVA, I too have wondered that on numerous occasions, I am only 35 yrs old, but I still feel like I'm not the catch I was, back in the day, been with my W since I was 19 yrs old,
I did however, make the mistake of looking to quickly, just for companionship, and well, had a few one night stands, one with a woman older than me, (not a geezer, just 43yrs old) but I have since squashed that, not only did it make me realize how much I loved my W, but her wants and mine are too, different. She has a son who is 21, with a W, and grand kids, definitely not my scene. Don't want to be a grampa, till my own kids can make me one, in quite a few years, DD is 11 and S is 7, still not sure if the baby W is carrying is mine or not, so I won't count that one. But even if it isn't I haven't ruled out having another kid, someday. My brother is 2 yrs older than me, and this is the 2nd time he has gotten his girl, she is 28 or 29, pregnant, within the last 6 months, So I know that it's possible.
But at this time, I know that I am mostly, not emotionally ready for any R, other than a close friendship with my W, maybe other friendships with other women, but nothing more, not yet, anyway. Got to see how this pans out first, I owe it to myself, my W, and my kids to do the best I can to bring us all back together as a family. I'll let everything else just happen, the way that God intends.
I myself, lost about 50 to 60 lbs when all this began, due to the major depression, I think. But now I have noticed and my W, is very concerned with how much and how fast I did lose it, so I am trying to put a little back on, I told her jokingly, that I need to be fattened up like a Christmas goose, got a laugh from her, but she agreed, Seriously, I need to bulk up for the winter, without W, it will get pretty cold, by myself. Take care, Bro.
