I did bring the topic of Retrouvaille up yesterday with my wife but she is not interested. She thought it was therepy and I told her it was not. I said its presented by couples who wanted out so they have been there and it was 80% sucess rate. Then couples share with just each other privately. There is no group discussion. Sadly, that is not the direction she plans to take. She is waiting to get a full time position before she files so that is why we live in the same house. She does not love me anymore which I already knew.
She did admit she is a control freak and said she does not know who she is anymore, and is waiting for her oldself to come back. I don't trust you, etc. I have been hurt too many times, this is the 4th time. My family has been put through this too.
I said to her that I have been hurt too, but I have forgiven everyone (none will apologize because they do not see themselves as doing anything wrong). I asked why would you not speak to your dad sister or brother-in-law that after 17 years, I was exhausted of their remarks about my catholic faith. It was pure bigotry. I would never even consider talking against a Jewish person's faith, protestant, Muslim what ever.
Sara, just so you know, members of her family have told me off, put me in my place, corrected my grammar, cured at me, told me I do not discipline my children correctly, told me I should have a cat in my house (which we do), the list goes on and on. I have had to keep silent.
I told my wife that can you please speak to them and she just wouldn't do it.
I am prayaing for a miracle and hope God will answer my prayers that my wife will be converted. Being converted to God has to be God's will so I pray for that.
Thanks for your help but until my wife gets that chip off of her shoulders and not be so proud, the graces God is sending to her is bounding off like tennis balls.
