I still hold out hope that our marriage can survive. ...I am wondering if I should file for divorce.
Huh? Those don't go together. In fact, I believe you know the answer to the latter statement.
Why would a person do something they don't want.
Oh, I know there are SOME valid answers...no $ for kids...that doesn't apply here.
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they have essentially been emailing Penthouse Forum letters to each other and she has sent him numerous nude photos of herself to him, to which he writes back how he 'enjoyed' himself to them. ...She evidently had sex with him in the back of some stranger’s pickup bed.
And is this sane behaviour to you?
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Do you think our spouses lose repsect for us if they know that we are aware of their infidelity and still want them back?
Your wife has no Self-respect. She can have NO respect for ANYONE until she finds it for her Self.
My step-mother didn't respect my Stand for me marriage. Know what...I didn't care. What was I supposed to do, divorce and thus sacrifcie my Self-respect so she could respect me...sounds twisted to me.
So find your own Self-respect. She may use a lack of respect for you as an excuse...and usually that is all it is. Unless you are waiting for her to come home and pining over her out of desperation and neediness. If you are respectable and strong emotionally/mentally, she will have respect for you once she finds her Self-respect.
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She has still talked about going to dinner/lunch, but not since late July.
So what should you do...go or not?
Sure, go to lunch with her if you would like. BUT understand she is sick and broken...and no matter how well she fakes it, she is still sick and broken...so she's not ready to come home if she tries to pull that card. Right now, IF she INITIATES CONTACT be her friend...but wait for her to make the first move.
