My marriage is hopeless VI

[SuperDad]

Scott,
Back to your interactions with your W. This was a bit of a backslide, but also gives you a good opportunity to contrast with some 180s. From now on:

1. Do not defend yourself, just validate her emotions.

2. Where appropriate (like your venting about her) appologize. (good job on that)

3. Do NOT snoop.

4. Do not worry about OM, he is a speck of dirt on the floor. You should just step over him and focus on your life.

5. DETACH, lovingly. I think the second part may be the hardest in your/my sitches. Esp. when she is emotional, you need to just validate, keep a PMA, and not let her mood affect you AT ALL!

Nobody said it would be easy or fun, but it is the only way out of this sitch with your integrity and self-respect in tact.

SD