NDDT - realize that you don't want to file - yet. That may change at some point. It may not. Accept that your view on this will change over time - allow yourself that. I'm not telling you to file - not in any shape or way. Just accept that this is a process and that means that your feelings will change in some ways over the course of it.
Don't get hung up on her not coming by to grab her stuff. You have no idea why she hasn't been able to do that. Not to sound flip...but maybe she's too busy going out on dates. My point is, you have no idea why she is doing what she is doing so don't even waste your time thinking about it. Just focus on you.
