I know you really helped me with the detaching. I have read it over and over. I know my H said the same things and then I still looked for the little bit of hope. He still calls and talks to me like there is nothing wrong and their is no OW. SO I was on the roller coaster ride of hoping and being disappointed. I am now figuring out I need to detach for my own health. And to see what life will bring. My H doesn't want to be the one woho files because of being the bad guy so we will see. I see what runningouof time is saying and I know they will all regret it when it all done. I have friends that got divorced and in a few years they said they wish they has worked on it harded. At this point in their lives they are in such a fog that they can't see it or reason about it. So all we can do is bethere for ourselves and the kids. I like the idea of the chocolate Martini they are good.......DO stuff for you....I am always here.
Penny you and I can work on this detaching thing together, ok? Sounds like we are in the same place. Yes I realized that I was helping to create the roller coaster. I think it is ok, to see the little things as positives, but then I would go over hopeful and upset when I would not see any more little things, or it was not moving fast enough. I am trying to realize that this is not my time line, this is his, and I just have to deal with the hand I was given and make the most of it for now.
