Fran Maybe I should start doing that again, but when he complains just say "what makes you think I'm doing this for you?" I think you should say that.
I think some guys need to see a woman’s sexuality from a perspective of the individual rather than as a couple.
If he could think in a frame of mind of your needs/desires/wishes as a separate individual, rather than as a couple, maybe he would feel less pressure personally and could think less couple oriented and more in a way that there are two people in a sexual relationship, from a 3rd. party perspective.
I know I have my wishes and I consider my W’s wishes as if I was a 3rd party sometimes. It makes it easier do or not do some things and removes some of the frustrations. It also leads to some disconnectedness because of our differences and lowers my expetations.
