back to square -1 or -10000

[ACJ]

Lin,
I hear what you are saying but when you are not in a position to influence your Hs behaviour what do you?

I know my H is depressed. He's never voiced it but I would lay my life on the fact that he is worrying about dying young like his father. He has a much younger OW, one that has no ties (not even any family in this country), she has so much to loose by not being with him. Because I am being a good mum to our 3 kids I am enabling his current lifestyle. If something happened to me tomorrow he would be forced to change (or give up the kids totally). That's not likely to happen and I feel I've tried everything DR suggests (except filing myself). Totally at my wits end with this M. I want it so much but it's not happening.