I believe you are at the point that your battle clearly belongs to the Lord. You have done as much as a person can on their own. It's time for your husband to put up or shut up ... Sympathy and understanding are one thing. Enabling is another..you are wrestling demons that don't belong to you.
Step back, pray a hedge of protection around him and give him a chance to man up.
Dear Amy, thanks for your advice, I see a pattern here, that i have to let go, let him swallow a bit of water and just watch from the shore, til he is strong enough to swim my way without me throwing a rope and hauling him back with me. He has lots of demons, he needs to fight them, you are right. I only hope I stay strong and not stuck in limbo, that I live my life in peace with my children til whatever happens happens.
Everyone, thanks so much for your helping hands, my heart feels lighter already, i'm dusting off DB rules "don't pursue" "don't be too available", etc etc. Love you all)))))))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
