Yes... however, for you to accept crap sex is akin to someone fishing for a compliment:
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For me to 'fish for a compliment' from him would be my own attempt to 'fuse' with him. Anything he might deliver after my 'fishing' will not feel genuine, to both he and I, because I am prompting him to give it. He now cannot give freely, and with feeling, for in my 'fishing,' I have robbed him of the opportunity.
Everyone, including HD's, understand how unattractive it is to fish for compliments... but replace the above 'fish for compliments,' with 'fish for sex.'
An HD might do that every now and then, and get away with it, but if they constantly seek LD crap sex, all it will do is repel the LD.
And to me, that is the contribution the HD makes to the SSM. You can see it with a compliment, but you can't see it with sex. And please do not tell me it isn't the same thing. Unattractive behavior is unattractive behavior, regardless of what you are asking for.
