I appreciate what you're both saying. Marriage is not about what *I* want, nor about what *he* wants, but about the give and take. What is an absolute to me looks completely different to him. I think that's where the confusion about boundaries is coming from for me. Sigh.
I think I'll take your advice Cat, and talk about the trip from that angle--how we can approach this in a way that is respectful of both our perspectives.
Overall, I am still having a great time with my H. We're going out tonight--I think I'll just be light hearted and fun and maybe talk about the trip later. Time to drop the bag of anxiety that is trying to squeeze the heck out of my heart.
