Could be a little of both reasons with a third thrown in. She shut down emotionally on me during the M and built that wall up to protect herself giving me the standard line over and over that she loved me but not like a wife should love a husband. Who knows exactly what that means?
Visiting me isn't necessary as we could always meet halfway and our son stay with her in her own home so coming here is to spend time with me too. She won't say that but it makes the most sense to me. She sent me a fruit basket for my birthday last week and the card read: "happy birthday, look forward to seeing you guys next week...love ex." Everything she says or does includes me and our son as a tandem.
The flowers arrived around noon today. She didn't have much emotional response to them. She pulled the card as if she was uncertain who may be sending them.....looked at me after reading it and said thank you, you didn't have to send me flowers. No smile, no hug...just a blank look. She took the card and placed into her purse....moved the flowers to act as a centerpiece on the dining room table and that was it.
We did some more shopping this afternoon for our son and the moment we got home she asked me for a referral to get a pedicure. Of course I am a regular at several places....lol. We looked it up in the yellow pages and she was off to get her toes done. Maybe she needed to get some alone time.
