Great advise here and only you can decide what you want to do for you and DD. But in any case please use the L for all financial corrospondance with H. DOn't let him tell you what will be.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
I would agree with PennyMB. I would suggest that you don't file. Let him do it, but be prepared like PennyMB said. I was surprised when my husband actually filed for the D. However, he knew that he had 7 months to back out of it. In our state the D can be filed, but until he signs the final papers (he has 7 months to sign those papers and if he doesn't sign, they are null and void)it isn't final. My husband now refuses to sign the final papers. Like PennyMB my H doesn't want to be the bad guy and I too agree that as long as we are in picture, they have an excuse to not go through with any committments with OW. I'm afraid that if it would have been me that had to sign the final papers, I would be D by now, as at times, I didn't see any chance of us getting back together and I just would have given up. I'm now glad that it has to be him and not me.
H 48 W 57 M 15 yrs T 18 yrs No children EA 1/12/06 Moved out 3/10/07 & 8/16/07 Back on 5/18/07 2nd Thread
Just checking on you. Perfect come back for How are you? We can act like it is going great. Have a big smile and go on to something else. I was at a function last night with alot of people we know. My H was there too. One guy asked where we were living and my H said I live in my trailer she lives in her house. It went by a lot better than I expected but I had lots of friends there and 3 Sil's that weren't going to let anything get to me and he didn't bring the OW..... We know so many people that it is hard. At one time he had to introduce me as his wife. I thought that was a good one. The guy was looking at some stufff in our business. Any way that detaching advice that Cali put on my thread is helping me a lot. I printed it off and make my self read it when I get weak moments.
Hang in there and Have a good time at the baby shower and have a good day.
I did well at the baby shower. No one came out directly and asked about H which made it easier.
Next hurdle will be deciding whether or not to go to BIL's birthday party next Saturday. It's going to be a huge thing (12 friends who have "major" birthdays this year are going together on the party). I thought it would be a good test for me because there will be so many people I can slip in and out without being noticed, but would be MY first major public appearance with chance of H being with ow (who happens to be a good friend of BIL). H has been out with ow in public, but not in my presence.
