Cali, I just had time to read your post. I have heard the exact same things that your H is saying. My H told me it wasn't about her it was our marriage. I was like you I told him that you can work through a lot of stuff especially when you finally realize it. But no they have their mind made up and thats what they are going to do. I found out more last night about OW she is bad news. No one has a good word to say about her.
You know the dtaching message you sent me on my thread on detaching has help me the last few days. If I keep reading them so it sinks in I am gaining. I appreciate you telling me. It is still amazing how everyone is almost on the same template with their H and even W. How can so many lives be so close in situations and we don't even know each other.
Hang in there and do something just for you today. WE will survive....
