How many kids do you have? Two, D26 S21, they both have their own homes, D is getting married in Nov. Do you work full time? No Commute? No How is your general stress level? ??? Up & Down free time/obligations/priorities/finances/mental noise Does your desire level change during time off/weekends/vacations? Now that you mention, yes, much higher on weekends & vacations If you have a ongoing 'issue' with who initiates you can mentally schedule it. I think we really share initiating Desire is an ongoing issue for me, (I asked cemar for help with it one time and he declined) and most of my sex is 'scheduled'.
Now that you have asked these questions some bells went off as I was answering. Maybe my desire goes down when it is scheduled at bedtime during the week. On weekends when I have the freedom to initiate anytime my desire is high? Then by mid week and no sex, I am feeling less desire but then the weekend is here and wozaa... Maybe it is not the absence that actually causes the drop but more the lack of spontanaiety (sp?)
Thank you GEL & BF for the questions, they are giving me some options to think about.
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)
