Retrouvaille vs Counseling

[Lord Grenville]

Sara,

I have another question on this thread's theme of Retrouvaille vs/ counseling vs/ Divorce busting.

Over the past 7 months, my wife systematically shut down our marriage step-by-step, ending intimacy, then sleeping on the sofa, then separating, and now almost no physical touches of affection when we see each other except for the occasional brief "half-hug".

In following Divorce busting principles, I have not been saying "I love you" for many months, and I have also not been communicating affection physically or in other verbal ways.

So I am really having a hard time visualizing how in a Retrouvaille weekend, the emotional distance is bridged?

I guess I would have to say that the Divorce Busting strategies, like the Last Resort Technique that I have been following for a couple of months do not seem to be working, so I am ready to try another approach, but I am a little afraid that maybe turning on the "I Love You's" and clear affection suddenly at the weekend would sabotage the potential results of DB techniques that may need more time to have a cumulative effect?

Can you tell I am still second-guessing myself all the time?

LG