Sorry to hear that you're not feeling real good about the talk so I thought I'd stop by to cheer you up.
Actually, you did really good. It could have been way worse but the way that I read it, your sitch is getting better and better.
You must at this stage be thinking that this Suit guy is crazy. Well, I not crazy because even though you took a long backslide, the lesson that you have learnt is very important.
The lesson that you will take with you for the rest of your life is -
DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES ENGAGE IN AN "OUR RELATIONSHIP" TALK.
That's right NEVER. Repeat after me, NEVER ENGAGE IN AN R TALK....EVER.
Jet, tell me where is that we got the idea that R talks are important and necessary to build a good, loving relationshp?
I'll tell you where. It's a figment of people's imagination, it's a fishermans' tale. It's a myth that's been passed down from really dumb generations onto even dumber ones.
There is no reason for this belief. It's like when people thought the earth was flat. It's the same deal with R talks. I'm the guy that's now telling you the earth is round.
I bet you are surprised by this stage. Because it's completely true. R talks ALWAYS do more harm than good. You are living proof of this.
So, tell me. What's the dumb guy do? You know, the one whose life is one big cheeseless tunnel. That's right, he waits till things cool down a little to initiate another R talk.......
What an R talk is about is you telling someone that you don't like something about them and you want them to change. Right?
Or, it's pressure like....."c'mon tell me, where is this going?" or it's control like "unless you stop seeing OM1, OM2 & OM3 then I'm done with you".
Jet, I hope by now I've delivered my case why we should NEVER do R talk. Even when things are good, we shouldn't do R talk let alone, when things are bad. The worse the sitch, the worse the outcome of an R talk is.
So Jet, if I were you, I'd get a big bunch of flowers delivered and say "sorry that I was such an a$$ the other night. I do love you and accept you for who you are, Jet". P.S. If I promise to behave myself in future, can we get naked please?
God Bless
Suit
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
