I Belong Over Here

[cat03]

I've actually been missed!!! you two are sweeties, you dont' knowhow that makes me feel, specially now, sitting here licking my wounds.

Cadesn, I had become a lurker after a while, and later (for the best, much later) I stopped coming here, when something said would trigger ow and A memories.
Anyways, it always sadden me to see you in Infidelity CM, I'm so glad you are back here, before I read the bottom of your thread I copy this bit of your post so I could respond:
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I'm just having a rough time. I don't want details.
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YES YES and yes. earlier this eve I broke into my H's email to see how far they'd been going on (I didn't trust him to tell me the truth, though he actually did) and found picts she's send in some dominatrix outfits, stuff they were planning to do, what they've done certain night. NO, you DON"T need to know, and now you know why.
When the ow is brought up, you remind your H of her and refresh her memory in him, don't do that, give her a slow death and ignore all things ow.

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Sometimes I just have days where everything comes rushing back and it still hurts so much. Then H is over there acting as if everything is so great & wonderful and he's so happy.
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Physically, womens brain retain more memories and men have the capacity to turn off and off hurtful sitches, we cling to details, they move on.
Yes hon, it will hurt, but I promise you, it will fade, if a memory comes by, rush it by an occupy yourself with something else, eventually your brain will do that automatically, will not linger as much because you've taught it to do so.

It can be done, it will be done, you and I will bury that hurt, again)))))))))))))))))))))