I know the pain of not knowing, yet wanting to know, yet not wanting to know. I am so sorry. I have young kids too (3 and 5) and I look at them, in all of their innocence.
Her talking about your future is a good sign. Pushing her to talk about what's going on will only drive her further away and more into denial. She doesn't want to admit what she has done, the guilt is too much for her right now. She isn't thinking clearly. If you want this to work (rather than leave), then you will have to painfully wait this out, until she is out of her fog. I come here, to read and sometimes to post. It just makes me feel better that people understand.
