Just read your new post and am curious. Are you saying your case is weird because of H's backslide after a year now? I was thinking actually that it might be typical for him to revisit the A if he still hasn't dealt with his ongoing issues. Deb (fizzle) comes to mind as well as some others I've read. Yoyo's hubby went back and forth for a long time before resolving to work on their M. My DH seemed fine for 5 years with issues that he stuffed before they reared their ugly head again. I guess what I'm saying is, at some point, the issues have to be dealt with or they'll eventually crop up again. That's what makes piecing so hard I think. At first it's like a honeymoon and it's easy to pick up where we left off maybe. Some things are dealt with, but unless the WAS finds peace within themselves and the decision to commit to the M again, backslides do happen. You're not alone in that and it doesn't mean your sitch is without hope. For us it just meant that I had to dig in and we're having to be diligent in rebuilding our R no matter how much time is passed and how comfortable things seem.
