Cat,

So sorry to hear you're going through this again. You know that you don't have to decide what to do right now while everything is raw. OW is your H's drug. From what you posted, it doesn't seem like he's trying to say he's in love with her or doesn't love you. He sounds like a confused, hurting, man who's trying to feel good and find happiness outside of himself. Doesn't help your pain though, does it? I've been there too many times myself and know how much it sucks after things were going well for so long. Be patient with yourself and take care of you and your precious babies. You'll find strength and answers in your heart when you're ready.

Huggs,

Sheila