I just reread the chapter on goals in DR. A realistic example was to not mention the word "Divorce" in conversation. I/ We did not meet that goal today. The word was mentioned twice today, by my H. But I will keep this goal in mind from now on. That word puts a dart in my skin big time.

Me:"How was lunch with Male Friend?"
H:"Fine. He gave me insight into his parents' divorce."
Me:"Oh?" Then I walked away as if the baby needed a diaper change.

I am sure his friend did not say anything to the effect that divorce is awful for everyone involved. He probably said everything is fine and they both moved on and now they are married to two other people (Friend's Dad married mistress secretary) who make them happy. Blah, blah, blah.

Last edited by mkultra; 08/11/07 04:22 AM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC
M:10 R:23 years
D6 S3
Bomb: Easter, 2007
"Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."