Oh ugh. Just had a "date" with DH (he agreed, but none too enthusiastically). Turned out because of his work we couldn't go anywhere, so we just had dinner alone together at home. It was a very, very long and quiet two hours: the only conversation was initiated by me (no R talk) and DH responded briefly.
After a long silence he said flippantly, "So how's this 'working on things' treating you?" (Last week when he expressed doubts about us I said there was nothing we couldn't work on.) I said, "I'm just working on me now, and it's treating me well." End of conversation.
I think he half expects me to bring up the R and half believes I think since we're spending time together that things are going fine. So again, I'm feeling like a dolt.
So one of our issues was not spending time together, but now that I'm doing that, it only seems to highlight the silence. One of his other complaints was that we don't talk about "anything important." Obviously the R is important, but neither one of us is bringing that up, so that leaves me either prattleing on (to myself, mostly) about lighthearted stuff or silence. That doesn't feel like the good stuff that spending time together is supposed to generate. If he doesn't want to hang out, I wish he'd just decline the invitations!
