Shocked H in NJ looking for DB help

[Willing NJ H]

One more thing I forgot, her hanging out with only her single friend from work is driving me nuts. I knnow I can't control it, but it's a horrible influence right now. The girl is very attractive, uses men to suit her needs and get what she wants, and is very active / open with many men. I hate this, because i'm pretty sure it's clouding my W's mind as to it meing "ok for a mom to do", or that this is what she needs to feel free again. She denies that she wants to be like the girl, but she ahngs out with her and her single male friends at least once a week (out drinking and partying). I know I can't control it, but I had to get that out since I can't say it to her.