I can hear some woman right now thinking, "if he doesn't O, he doesn't love very much or she isn't exciting enough for him!
Sounds like a very 'fused' woman to me.
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Personally I only O 1/2 to 1/3% of the times I have sex.
Well, that is different BF. Is that because you want it that way? Have that much control?
I don't mean to speak for blackfoot, or even 'stand up' for him, but I am curious to know if I'm in the ballpark in my thinking here... as I continue to try and understand men... so any man, including blackfoot, who might read this, please comment:
This, for me, answers Lou's question about control. It's from the book Mojo recommended. The author quoted another expert:
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By R. Louis Schultz in “Out in the Open: The Complete Male Pelvis:
To live in society, we all require a degree of control. Too much control, however, and we can become automatons. Control is always being right. Control is not letting your feelings influence your life. Control is not letting the joy of life be a goal. Control is mot expressing your feelings. Control is being neutral or neuter. Control is not being sensual. Control is lessening the enjoyment of sex. Control is not being aware or responsive to the feelings of others, since you are not aware of your own feelings. Control is always being on an even emotional plane.
A lot of woman’s complaints from women about men:
“He’s disconnected from his feelings,” , “He won’t let go, he keeps everything inside,” , “We have sex, but we don’t make love,” , “He won’t talk about sex; he walks away the minute I bring up the conversation.”
My guess is, as a single male, blackfoot just isn't in love with someone. Why would he relax his control on such a level of intimacy?
Were he to claim to be 'in love,' and his gf/wife were to say the things as quoted above, then Lou, I think you might have a valid point about a possible 'control' issue.
I think most guys, if not all, who are not in love, operate in this manner... (if I understand correctly, and yeah, I'm wondering if I do...)
