The thing is when he started this new band, I was completely supportive.
hindsight: you shouldnt have been. not because of fear of cheating, but because, just like the marketing guy said: bands, and families, dont mix.
Some thoughts:
1. this singer is just using him until they make it big, then she'll "go solo" (what does he DO anyway?) [or until she scores a rich groupie suger daddy]
2. i was thinking that your daugher might be what finally wakes him up, ro gets him to GROW up. But .. umm.. you didnt get married until she was 5? thats... "unusual".
Sounds like he has a very long running case of peter-pan-ism. I'd say you should not talk like your family is "over", and you should encourage any time he wants to spend with your daughter, without pushing it on him. And also try NOT to replace him in her life.
If he truely loves her.. he may eventually realize what a schmuck he is being, by not being with her when she needs him (to be her strong support going into middleschool/high school, and to provid her with morals. girls without fathers, often end up screwing a long chain of boys, to "have a man in their life" )
Last edited by Dom R; 08/10/0711:35 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
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