Except of course, that it wasnt you. It was him. His previous band sucked. That's why that person made a NEW band. and THAT one was successful.
You hit the nail on the head. Their band wasn't good at all and there was no reason why he needed to spend so much time away from the family traveling when he wasn't making any money or going anywhere with it.
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If he was so wonderful and talented, his first band would have been successful. But the other guy is the one with the talent.
I wouldn't say the other guy is talented, he's just good at marketing himself and his band. This burns my H's butt more than anything too. My H even taught one of the other band mates how to play this genre of music and this kid has been in music magazines and stuff...it kills H. The irony of all of this is that H loves to trash talk the marketing guy and say that he would walk all over anyone and leave anyone behind just to get to the top...I would love to say, "yeah, just like you're doing to your family?"...Here's another good bit of info I forgot about, the marketing guy told H he wasn't commited enough to be in a band that could "make it"...I forgot how he worded it, but he made mention of the family...ouch! The thing is when he started this new band, I was completely supportive. We agreed on the goals and understood what was involved. I won't say it wasn't hard when he was gone because it was and I won't say I didn't complain sometimes because I did. I told him he made me feel second best, but I also explained he could still do what he wanted and make me feel like I/family came first. It was just the way he said things. If I said I needed him one night instead of going to "practice", he would just say, "I can't"...flat out, that was it. I never asked him when I knew it was important, but if I needed him, it was always a big deal. Granted, there were times that he would stay home, but he was NOT happy about it and he let it show. I would say that I was way more supportive than not though. It became our life. And to top it all, OW is a part of this whole dream too since she is the singer. My sister told me once that she thinks it's natural for people to gravitate towards someone they believe will get them farther in life. I tend to agree, but it still all comes down to 2 things; the grass is not always greener and choosing to commit. I think H struggles with both of these right now.
I don't know if he ever wanted to be a family man. D10 was a surprise and things were always difficult...my attitude was "you gotta do what ya gotta do", H's attitude was "why is this happening to me" even though we both agreed we wanted to work it out. We didn't get married right away so when we finally tied the knot, I thought it was for real. Man, I really looooved our family.
