one of his band mates then went on to form a new band that is now making millions. I know this is a biiiiig issue for him. I have often wondered if he somehow holds this against me (or the family/family life) that he missed his chance to "make it".
Ohhhh.. that's rather important information to have.
I'll answer that question for you right now: Yes. Yes he does. A lot. He blames you, and your children, for "holding him back".
Except of course, that it wasnt you. It was him. His previous band sucked. That's why that person made a NEW band. and THAT one was successful.
If he was so wonderful and talented, his first band would have been successful. But the other guy is the one with the talent.
Plus: being a "family man", and being a "rock star", are completely, totally, incompatible.
All this does not mean that your situation is hopeless. I dont think it is right for you to use words like "never". It's just gonna take a long time for his fantasy to crash. For him to realize taht just because "his friend" made a lot of money in "a band".. doesnt mean that HIM being in "a band" is going to give him fame and fortune.
then on top of that... he has to decide that being a "family man" is what he wants to be. you really dont know which way he will eventually swing. But you do know, it's going to take a lot of time for him to decide.
How long does it usually take a band to give up and split, if they're doing it "full time"?
how fully do you think he was committed to your family, when he decided to drop out of his former band? At that time, do you think he truely wanted a family? or was it more of a "oh well the band thing isnt working out, i guess i'll try the traditional path" kinda thing?
Last edited by Dom R; 08/10/0708:23 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
