YIPEEE!!! Htb, If you were close I would give you a big hug!! You handled yourself beautifully!!! I can't tell you how awesome you sound. Seems like you did a great job and took control of the situation...shocked your H a bit too I suppose?? Great job at fixing the door, guaranteed your H was shocked by that too...this past spring before I even had any idea H would come home I ordered mulch and spread it myself...doesn't sound like a a big feat but if I could have astroturf and fake flowers for my yard I would!! I do not have a green thumb at all. I was so proud of myself and the house looked great. H told me after when he came to pick up the girls one day he almost drove through the garage when he saw the mulch...shocked him! I have to say you sound stronger today, don't you feel better that you took a stand? You were right when you said to bad he doesn't like you like that....he doesn't not like being in control. I am sorry about your daughter. Give her lots of love and attention and she will be ok. It really stinks when you need a rock to support you while at the same time she needs you to be her rock! We are here to support you!